Of course, it doesn’t apply to all men. But for most men who’ve been in long-term relationships. There’s this one thing that women don’t seem to understand until it’s pointed out to them by their man. Some men are reluctant to point it out, because it might come across as rude, but it’s the truth, and, women, it will make your relationship much smoother, if it’s something you don’t currently understand:
Many men prefer to focus on a single task at a time, and holding a conversation is a task in itself.
If you want to have a conversation, that’s awesome. If you want to watch a show together, that’s also awesome. But those are two tasks that require full concentration, so don’t do them at the same time.
If we’re doing something that requires any amount of concentration at all, don’t try to start a conversation with us. Or, rather, don’t get upset if, when you start talking to us, we stop the other task completely.
Pausing a TV show because your woman is talking to you isn’t a sign of disrespect. It’s not a passive-aggressive way of telling her to stop talking. It’s a necessary step in switching from one task (watching a show) to another (conversing with your woman).
Are we talking now, or are we watching TV now? Pick one. I’m happy either way.
The one minor exception is if you’re driving with no traffic. Are we on a fairly clear highway, driving somewhere? Then sure, let’s talk. Are we in downtown Chicago on a busy Friday evening, and I’m trying to not hit anyone? Now’s not the time to strike up a conversation.
Guess what else is a task in itself: trying to get to sleep. Want to have a deep conversation with your man? When his head hits the pillow is not the time. Don’t start that conversation once he’s horizontal, then get upset if he sits back up to fully-awake mode to hold the conversation.
