Long Distance Relationship is an Intimate Relationship where two people in Relationship are separated by a wide distance or geographical location such as Region, Country or Continent. This makes it difficult for the Partners to see each other physically on daily basis. The distance between them demands a long travel by commute/traveling facilitator. There are Pros and Cons with Long Distance Relationship that needs to be carefully examined as to whether it is worth it or not. The good things about long distance relationship are: Exclusive to www.adwoaadubianews.com
1. A Renewed Passion & Excitement:
When the relationship is distant, it is always exciting when you see each other; like you just met for the first romantic time. There is always an excitement and rekindled passion whenever you see each other physically. Emotions run high and blames and fights are minimized.
2. Freedom and or Privacy Assurance:
The choice to do whatever pleases you and go to any place of preference is assured in Long Distance Relationship. This is because there are some restrictions with Closed Distance Relationship as partners needs to agree before outing and much time is spent together, restricting freedom. Long Distance Relationship is useful as you have enough time and privacy to yourself because your partner isn’t close to restrict you on anything.
3. More Time For Friends and Families:
When you are alone or distant from your partner, loneliness is limited (on the condition that you are very sociable and outgoing) because you can feel the presence of close friends and families. You can visit anyone at any time and even have a long chat. You can fill the vacuum of loneliness in Long Distance Relationship by scheduling free time to visit a friend, family members or social gatherings to improve your social relations. Exclusive to www.adwoaadubianews.com
4. More Time To Work on Your Goals:
Some ambitions requires more attention for concentration and time purpose. When you are in a Long Distance Relationship, you can have enough time to learn, school or develop yourself to a certain point or level. This helps you get a sense of fulfilment in life in the aspect of where you are developing.
5. Gets To Know Yourself Better As A Person:
Long Distance Relationship affords partners to discover their actual self individually in so many ways. Some of these ways are
• Self-control test (the ability to control your emotional and sexual desires for some time).
• Independent/Loneliness tendency (Whether you can stay in a presume loneliness).
• Care or Carelessness level, etc. It helps partners to know whether they really care for each other or not, in the aspect of communication and affection.
The feeling of being in an Intimate Relationship is quite different from being single or alone. Long Distance Relationship helps you to know the level at which you can cope with the two. (Singleness and Married).
What can disrupt Long Distance Relationship to work:
1. Transparency Issue:
There is oftentimes, lack of transparency with Long Distance Relationship since you are not that close to monitor and know what your partner is up to. Your partner may tell you one thing whiles he/she might be doing another thing, because you do not have the means to physically monitor or find out the truth at that moment.
2. Loneliness:
One of the sad thing or disadvantage of Long Distance Relationship is the state of loneliness. You are in a relationship yet feel lonely. Why? This is because of distance issue. With Closed Relationship, if you feel the need to visit your partner it is not much of a problem or difficult at all, unlike Long Distance Relationship. Loneliness is a difficult situation to be in, but very difficult when you are in Intimate Relationship but can’t see your partner as often as you want.
3. Lack of Physical/Emotional Intimacy:
Seeing each other often helps you build physical and emotional intimacy. Long Distance Relationship makes it difficult to achieve this. The time you might get to talk or engage in intimate talk might be conflicting due to schedules of partners. Even in times of illness, Long Distance Relationship makes it difficult to feel the physical presence of your partner.
4. Risk of Infidelity/Trust Issues:
Since you are far by distance, it becomes difficult to believe and trust your partner’s faithfulness. It is difficult to authenticate the level of faithfulness of your partner, and that reduces your trust. Especially when he or she tells you one thing and does the other thing; or changes his “mouth” oftentimes. Exclusive to www.adwoaadubianews.com
Long Distance Relationship can work on the following conditions:
1. Establish and communicate effectively and more often through good social media applications such as Facebook, Whatsapp, Instagram, Twitter, Telegram, etc.
2. Set aside time for interaction (share jokes, riddles, etc.). The conversation shouldn’t always be serious or structured; sometimes it must be hilarious or funny.
3. Don’t use the little time you get for each other to quarrel or fight but cherish every moment.
4. Do not play with each other’s feelings. Don’t ignore your partner if he/she expresses his or her affection towards you.
5. Stay faithful to each other. Do not cheat on each other because you don’t physically see each other.
6. Make visit to each other where necessary and enjoy your lonely time with friends and families.
7. Know each other’s schedule and gift a personal object for the other person to hold on to.
8. Keep each other updated on each other’s friends and families. This helps eliminate doubt and suspicion problems.
By: Counsellor Benjamin Effah Werehene
