In a healthy relationship, if you love each other, the love continues to feed on itself. If you started out with lust and discovered later that the person is someone you can respect, then love may follow and you stay together. However, if you respect someone before developing lust or love, then when you do fall in love, the lust is difficult to discover. Does that make sense?
It’s fine if you don’t need it. Some people feel its part of romance. Then what? You love and respect one another, but you can’t move forward with the relationship. The trick is to start with lust, then fall deeply in love, and let the respect develop later. However, there is no way to control the order of things. It’s all part of life.
It’s clear that we want to spend our life with someone we truly love. If it’s only for lust then something is wrong, but lust can be an enjoyable component of a relationship. If you’re in a loving and respectful relationship without lust, that’s fine if the love is strong enough. If lust is desired but missing, help one another create it with honest communication.
By Emmanuel Osei Akoto
