Love amongst the opposite sex or living things are fundamentally a creation of God. Specifically for the opposite sex because of the main preoccupation of human beings getting affection for each other and the result of our hormonal inducement that drives us to love.
But similarly, there is the angle where simple admiration for someone is misconstrued for love based upon the individual’s interest and purpose of developing an Eros, philia or agape love for the specific individual.
Love predominantly can be ignited instantly whilst it sometimes is developed along the line.
For male counterparts (or either way) to develop love for the opposite sex (either closely or from the distance) largely depends on the choices of the individual initiator, juxtaposed with the dispositions of the opposite sex.
Suffix to say, a guy develops deep interest of love for a female friend, doesn’t happen spontaneously, notwithstanding the fact it is sometimes ignited instantly, but furthermore, it must be subsequently driven by process of attitudinal flashes that’s appealing to all.
In that scenario, the individual at the other end must be extra circumspect to play the card with civility in order not to throw away or reject a “probable” golden pot or a royal in a disguised composure. Who knows that a certain David, with youthful exuberance but rejected to the wilderness to dine and commune with animals could become a King overnight?
Owing to that metaphor, a lady or guy who doesn’t (immediately) feel same emotional touch should first be in the interactive mood with the proposer to fraternize first and to formalize, whilst making your impressions felt, positively or negatively.
Be reminded that it is absolutely inhumane to reject out rightly a male or female advances if you haven’t had a deep emotional touch with your inner being to why and how a person of specific character should show interest in you.
Subsequent to that approach, the real man or woman that the proposer is made of would be revealed. Lust can also be disguised sometimes to appear in a manner of love, and if care isn’t taking, one might inadvertently fall into the devil’s trap (wolves in sheep’s skin).
We live in a part of the world where relationship of various kinds are formulated and effected at the behest of social inadequacies, desperation and depressions of life.
Family pressures, peer pressures, and occupational infractions leading people of the opposite sex to fall prey to anything as a “Hobson’s choice”. This is avoidable.
Apparently, most of our singles approach the opposite sex at the expense of their demographic buildups. If she is a graduate, a non-graduate guy is a nonstarter and vice versa, subject to parental discretion and other possible factors.
If you happened not being convinced by the same reciprocal love or inner intuition toward the opposite sex, be polite and explain yourself to the person, putting him or her (surreptitiously) on probational circuit for a while.
Remember, the human being is “only” transformational through divine prerogative and favor therefore, be connected inwardly to either reciprocate or reject any love advances through spiritual scrutiny (going behind the scene to speak to yourself) by your faith and cultural antecedence against that of the proposer before taking a decision.
Appearances are deceptive. The curves and complexions, the nice muscles and flashy ostensible display shouldn’t be taking for granted.
To love or to reject must transcend the physical panorama.
By Sammy Ladzekpo
